The thing is that, Ms. Small-Town-Confusion, we place guys like your buddy within the category of, He’s Not Gay, But He has got Gay Tendencies. The reason by it is their mannerisms and actions would immediately make one assume, based entirely on observation, these are generally homosexual. Yet, with them, you discover they are not gay, they are just slightly effeminate as you get to know these men, have conversation, and hang out.