Please don’t quit your work immediately! Your career will require a blow that may recover never. I’ve buddies in academia, and it’s really extremely unforgiving.

As other people have stated, I would personally highly recommend checking out additional options first, including your spouse getting assistance for their social anxiety problems, wedding and specific guidance. It truly seems as if you wish to have an excellent plan which you both agree upon *together* – again, as other people have stated, simply blindly moving is not likely to resolve their problems anyhow. It’s really tempting to imagine that the grass is obviously greener, but how might you feel when you do blow every thing to smithereens, move, in which he nevertheless has similar issues? You will be wherever you might be at this time, except much even worse off financially along with your fantasy task shall be shot.